We all make mistakes. In this two part series, Scott will discuss 5 steps to take after committing your mistake and later Betsy will discuss the law of Radiance approach to Forgiveness.
We can wage a war against our Bodies. Or we can love and cherish and make peace with our Bodies. We can focus on those last few pounds. Or we can see the Radiance that flows from our bodies, into our souls, and from our souls, to the whole world. The choice is ours to make. Every moment. Every day.
We must hold ourselves with all of the compassion we can muster and forgive ourselves. Despite our mistakes, we have the opportunity to let our Radiance shine. We should be devoting more energy in focusing on our Radiance than on our mistakes. With a clear focus on our own Radiance, we can look to our past and see those moments where we had to buckle down and give it all we had to turn around some of those challenging situations. We can focus on the lessons we’ve learned, the strength that we’ve exercised, the determination we’ve had to get through our challenges to return to joy. We can see how we would use our Radiance to more effectively handle that situation next time. Because, no matter what, we are still filled with beautiful gifts, strength, talents, unique qualities that make us different from anyone else on earth.
One of the hardest things to do when you are grumpy is to contain your grumpiness and then let it pass, before you do any real damage to yourself, your dreams, and your relationships. But the good news is there are some things you can do to help yourself–and your loved ones–when your bad mood begins to take the wheel. Here are a few tactics to help you navigate those moments of crankiness so that you can soon be back on your Radiant, loving path.
Our “Activating Your Highest Self” workshop helped our beautiful participants identify and connect with their own Radiance–their inner Light–their unique gifts, strengths, talents, and past triumphs. We then brainstormed ways that their Radiance could help them as they approach their identified challenges in their lives. It was powerful and the two hours passed so quickly, too quickly for those involved. Scott and I felt grateful to be a part of something so transformative and
A dear friend I’ve known for years called me this week, sobbing. Between gulps of air and lots of tears, she cried “I feel like I’m failing at life! How did I even get here?” Oh, sweet pea. Here she was, this beautiful, kind, creative, world traveler–smart, with a warm home, loving parents–shaken up, hit by a giant lightning bolt of fear and anxiety. Once she calmed down, she told me about how everything had been coming along fine but then this week she found out that her youngest sibling is buying a house–a whole, big, expensive house– and her other friend from grad school just got a job making three times as much money as she makes, and THEN her best friend just announced she was pregnant.
Comparison is poison to our joy. It dims, or even hides, our Radiance.
Law of Radiance and Romantic Love: Trading in My Soulmate Manifesting Wand for Dance Shoes and Real Love
In my twenties, I struggled in search of the wonderful romantic relationship I so deeply desired. I worked hard to live the Law of Attraction, trying to manifest my dream partner through my energetic vibrations and vision boards. I wished, visualized, prayed, dreamed, only to often feel lonely and sad. And all the while, I felt that focusing on what I wanted–but didn’t have–seemed like the wrong approach.
In my wiser thirties, I stopped using the law attraction. And I began dancing. I wore feathers and went to protests and festivals. I hiked and ran through the mountains and bathed in waterfalls. I reconnected with the beaming ray of light and that footloose fancy free person inside of me all along. I reconnected with my strengths and interests, my flow and greatness. This was the beginning of living the Law of Radiance–the beginning of falling in love with my life, and soon, with my partner.
As a parent, I get things done. I enjoy making a healthy, balanced breakfast for my daughter while I’m trying to pack a lunch that will delight her – or at least get Michelle Obama’s approval. I get bills paid, find wonderful summer camps, coach her volleyball team, host slumber parties, and have a never ending flow of great books on her bookshelf, ready to be shared. Sometimes I’m filled with pure joy and love when doing these activities. Other times, I feel like I’m checking off a box and then moving on to the next item. How is it that I can do the same activities from one day to the next yet have such vastly different experiences doing them?